growing up holdy

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  1. Jim says:

    I myself was very much like Holdy. ADHD, ODD, and was often told I was “very intelligent”. I made it into adulthood without the proper care and counseling that is available to kids today. You are doing the right thing! Equip yourselves with the tools and knowledge to help her and eventually help her help herself. She will grow up to be a brilliant doctor, scientist, scholar, actress or whatever she puts her mind to being. She may be naturally gifted with skills. Thankfully for me, I was gifted with computers. It has allowed me to have a great career as a computer engineer even without a college degree. I will tell you from firsthand experience that the worst part of being ADHD is the feeling of failure. We aren’t the best multi-taskers and things do slip. Things started but not finished, relationship problems, sometimes problems at work or school with peers. She is young, and I pray that she doesn’t have the same kinds of problems I did. The services and treatments are all so much better today. When we were in school, the treatment plan was to take a Ritalin pill. That was the extent of it.

  2. Nikki says:

    You are a wonderful person and mother Meagan! I am confident you will continually support Holdy in whatever way possible because that is what loving parents do! Whenever we as parents hear diagnosises from doctors such like Holdys, we initially take the defensive nature of ” what have we done wrong ” I speak from experience when my son was diagnosised from the Neurologist with a simple tic disorder. He was 8 years old and they said he would likely grow out of it! We dealt with numerous years of IEP evaluations. At first we felt ashamed as you had mentioned. His Tic disorder usually accompanied ADHD. So we constantly looked to teachers and doctors to offer their help. He never was diagnosised with ADHD but the constant Tic he dealt with, and by the way, continues to deal with now at age 21, never interfered with any of his many accomplishments throughout his 12 years of school! He was doctored every year for his Tic and we gratefully accepted every opinion offered. But the outcome every year was the same, he (and we) decided to never pursue any medical treatments! He decided at a very young age that he was different from his peers, fought through many different tics (head shaking, eye blinking, spitting, hand twiching) but never let his disorder define him! He always accepted any suggestions that might help, but has continually learned his own way of dealing with the tics. As Holdy rubs her feet together, Parker was ticing with unvoluntary movements to suppress his nervous system, like an itch you cant touch! How frustrating this must have felt for my son. I want you to know that Holdy has the best support system around…YOU…you are one hell of a mother Meagan! Although frustrating beyond belief sometimes…having to work through all this WILL make Holdy an even stronger young lady in the end! The struggle surely has made Parker a remarkable young man…being awarded the Principals Award his senior year of high school was truly one of my happiest AND proudest times ever…especially when all those years of school all I heard was…your boy spaces off in classs tics every which way and surrely has to have some type of learning disorder! Please know your struggles are shared by many and Holdy is only going to become loved by all who have the pleasure of working with her…I’m sure of that! Love to all!

  3. Shelly says:

    I have been following your blog for awhile after finding you through alovelylark. I live in your same area and always admire how much you love our beautiful city of York and your dedication to its revitalization. I also am very impressed with how much you seem to accomplish with your life, career, and family. Where do you get your energy? I felt compelled to respond to this post, because your situation is EXACTLY where I was about 3 years ago with my oldest daughter. I used to videotape her meltdowns because I couldn’t get any medical professionals to believe me when I tried to describe their severity. We have left grocery stores, family parties, church functions, etc. with the whole family in tears because the outburst was SO intense! I feel your pain and believe me when I say I truly know how you have been feeling. I beat myself up over and over, trying to figure out where my husband and I went wrong. How could we have such a devil-like child? We finally got the ADHD/ODD diagnosis when she was 6. (It took her biting another student on the playground for someone to finally take us seriously!). I had known from the time she was 3 that something was wrong, but couldn’t get anyone to believe me. Once we received the diagnosis, we did start her on medication. What a difference it made! It took us several months to find the right medicine and dose, so if you do take the medication route as she grows older, have patience with it. We also got a second diagnosis of Autism Spectrum Disorder when my daughter was 8. I had always suspected this too, but since she is gifted, her intelligence often masked some of the common symptoms. My lengthy post is to say, hang in there! Take a lot of deep breaths and know that you are a good mom!! The fact that you are getting her the help she needs tells me that you are a great mom who loves Holdy very much. My daughter is now 9 and thriving in school. She has friends, lots of interests, and her teachers describe her as smart, funny, and a good student. We still use medication as well as cognitive behavior therapy, and social skills therapy, but it is all worth it. Our lives are so much better now than 3 years ago. My hope is that you will be able to look back when Holdy is 9 and be able to say the same thing. It’s not always easy, but take one day at a time!

  4. Mary says:

    You’re an inspiration. What a brave post, and what a lucky girl Holdy is to have you as her mom. Thank you for sharing your family’s journey.

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